The Happiness of your Life is Determined by the Quality of your Thoughts.

This one holds special meaning for me—I feel so strongly about it that I have it tattooed on my chest!

As many of you know, I coach GREAT leaders—pillars of their communities, leaders in their organizations, and loving parents, children and partners. But even these incredible individuals sometimes face moments of doubt...
𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘌𝘝𝘌𝘙𝘠𝘛𝘏𝘐𝘕𝘎 𝘵𝘰 𝘌𝘝𝘌𝘙𝘠𝘖𝘕𝘌 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘲𝘶𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘩 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘩.

Recently, I worked with a young man who was, by all accounts, a true leader—dependable, trustworthy, hardworking, and guided by a strong moral compass. Yet, he doubted himself, feeling his goals were too high for "someone like me."

Together, we reclaimed his confidence by redefining what being "A GREAT MAN" meant for him. A strategy we used was Self Talk Analysis:

1️⃣ Awareness: Spotting harsh self-talk that he’d never use speaking with others.
2️⃣ Reflection: Writing down these criticisms daily to reveal patterns and raise awareness.
3️⃣ Replacement: Replacing judgments with statements that were both ACCURATE and HELPFUL.

In just two weeks, his mindset shifted dramatically. His newfound confidence allowed him to take risks and pursue goals he’d been putting off for years.

𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐲 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐋𝐄 𝐌𝐎𝐒𝐓 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡 𝐣𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨𝐨.

𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘢 𝘎𝘙𝘌𝘈𝘛 LEADER 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘎𝘙𝘌𝘈𝘛 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮—𝘰𝘳 𝘭𝘦𝘵 𝘮𝘦 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱!