You teach others how to treat you

Are you setting the right tone for how others treat you?

As a former software engineer, I discovered that boundaries are as crucial for building human relationships as creating software security.

🧠Emotional boundaries can be hard to navigate, yet sit silently in every interaction. Each of us has boundaries, and since much of our career is influenced by interpersonal relationships, being aware of boundaries, both ours and others', is pivotal

In my past, if someone interrupted me in a meeting, I wouldn't address it; instead, I would respond by withdrawing, inadvertently teaching them that behaviour is okay with me. But what if I had addressed this?

1) 𝐈𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐲: how do I want to be treated?
2) 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐥𝐲: To enhance the relationship, not to hurt it.

💭 "𝘏𝘦𝘺, 𝘐'𝘷𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘮𝘦 𝘢 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘸 𝘮𝘦𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨s, 𝘐'𝘥 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘥𝘥 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘴𝘰". Firm, but not aggressive.

❗REMEMBER❗this isn't about blaming, it's about building better relationships.

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮?